The Inner Marriage for Healthful Relationships

We all have a divine masculine and feminine aspect of self. We carry the capacity for these qualities to exist in sacred union within our core. Like an inner marriage, or a spiral of light the two qualities of our being combine to create a central power source that feeds and fuels our life experience, past lives and future incarnations.

This aspect of being on the internal level, the etheric union of self, is mirrored and explored through the relationships that we encounter on the physical plane. Seeking to find a balanced level of divine masculine or feminine self, we will often attract partners, relationships and connections that offer learning and growth. Our highest level of being, our Soul, seeks to filter our natural divine light into our consciousness in a number of ways. Sometimes our relationship experiences seek to spark our protective, self sustaining, fierce or courageous qualities. Other times we are sent opportunities to explore vulnerabilities, softness, gentleness or humour.

We each have an infinite number of qualities, gifts and experiences we are able to attract during the course of several lifetimes. With the gift of clairvoyance, when working alongside others, and exploring my own previous lives, I often see the ways we are each pass alongside previous soul encounters, past life loves, in our current lifetime. The chords of light that connect us to one another and through time and space, carry the resonance and echoes from past lifetimes. How we approach the interactions in our current lifetimes, will renegotiate the energy exchange both in the present and into future encounters, should we incarnate alongside once more. As a teen/young adult I felt bombarded by past life connections. People who I had died alongside, loved or felt hurt by, appearing in this present life with no ‘memory’ of me. Those learning opportunities, many painful, eventually helped me to clearly create boundaries of what I sought to learn as an adult. Many people experience intense connections throughout the course of their present lives, that are deeply impacted by the past life resonance the two individuals share.

With devotion to self awareness, we are offered ample chances to notice the way the divine masculine self, or feminine aspects of being were encouraged, distracted, or depleted through particular combinations. In adult relationships, many people seek to find their soulmate to experience divine and sacred union. Yet it is in connecting and fostering a union of self, that the wholeness of being, that some attribute to an outside source, is truly celebrated. Once this inner marriage occurs, the Soulmate that help to amplify the inner union of self, is more easily attracted into tones energy field.

Through a union of self, the tone of all other relationships will shift. Through discovering the unique qualities of being that are ones own strengths and nurturing qualities, we are each able to identify the ways other people can encourage, support and be celebrated in their own ways for meaningful and lasting relationships. Marriages of all kinds take constant determination by both parties to be growing, recommitting, and honestly exploring the ways the inner marriage of self, the core power source is radiant or feeling depleted of light. A person may have a fierce inner warrior masculine energy that attracts several partners who seek to explore their own warrior self, yet in all honesty, when finding the mate that is most likely to amplify the balanced self, the person may choose someone with a gentle and healing divine masculine attribute. Together the two energies create a balance of light exchange in union, and with the world at large. In another circumstance, the divine feminine aspect of being may have a powerful knowledge or energy for rebirth, death and regeneration, and attract fiery qualities in relationship that help to feed this intense emotional level of being. Yet in balanced partnership the partner who is most suited to amplifying those gifts may carry a grounded divine feminine light who has gifts for patience instead of fire.

Partners, romantic relationships, and marriages all amplify qualities within the two parties in some way. We may choose on a soul level to wade through the intensity of feeling that comes from exploring imbalance for several years, or lifetimes. Yet we always have the power to choose to devote honest exploration of soul path as individuals and to encourage growth and soul development in the beloved. To honour our need for years or lifetimes alone, or those times in which partnership is most aligned with our being. Some relationships last an eternity, through several lifetimes. The resonance of love and union resurfacing to offer gifts through a casual encounter in one life or a union of decades in another. Yet, through each interaction we can ask ourselves courageously, does being with this person bring forth the gifts I have to share with this planet? In a way that provides space and energy for my partner to also amplify their gifts?

The following are two prayers I often use in committed relationship, in the eternal endeavour to balance a unified self and in honouring my beloved husband:

For union of Divine masculine and feminine qualities in the self:

“Dear Divine Source, God/dess of Creation, please send your angels to assist me in uncovering the aspects of self that are in need of the most Love and attention for empowered balance. Please help me to clearly identify the gifts I carry as an individual in a unification of Divine masculine and feminine qualities, to share with this beautiful world. I ask for the assistance of the Archangel Micheal, to cut through chords of fear, as I explore the ways I empower or disempower myself with current life choices. Thank you for the sending the gentle energy of the Divine Feminine in the aspect of Parvati to help me assimilate the ways I am able to nourish and sustain myself through healing, strengthening, self compassion or transformation. Thank you, Amen, OM and Aho.”

For renegotiating energy exchange with the beloved:

“Dear Divine Source, God/dess of Creation, please help a balanced energy of Love and well being on all levels, flow between myself and my partner. Please send the Archangels most attuned to our soul paths at this time, to assist us as individuals in union as we seek to better support one another with the highest vibrations of Love. May we each have the courage, the grace and the compassion to bring out the divine light we foster, for the good of our marriage, our community and the world at large. Thank you, Amen, OM and Aho.”

The power of words when prayed, affirmed or spoken aloud, carry the resonance of our intent. If it is with a faith and pure intention that we seek to know ourselves as individuals and to honour the individual journey of our partners, we are better equipped to identify what needs to shift in relationship, either with ourselves or one another to bring about a more balanced flow of energy on the physical, emotional, mental or spiritual plane. If one quality of being or one person in relationship is always the dominant energy, the imbalance will amplify energy that is perhaps not for the highest good of any. It is a constant renegotiation of ones light, core seIf, soul purpose and feelings of deservedness for joy, that we each must navigate. Yet we are all multidimensional beings, capable of balance, of investment and diversity of energy. We can be honest about where our focus must be for partnership balance and health. We are all capable of amplifying our own and one anthers light. May we each choose to find balance within ourselves, and to help create balance in the world at large through relationship.


with Light and respect,


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Talking to Our Children About the Divine

I have had a number of parents asking me lately to add a blogpost, or another book regarding sharing the themes of ‘Soul Evolution’ with Children. While I look forward to writing another book in the future, I am still recharging my personal power source of self at this time, and so offer this blogpost until the time another book, possibly for children, manifests.

When I look at a child I see bright, fully formed Soul’s. The challenges they are carrying from this life, as well as others, and the gifts they have brought forward. I see them in the same context as adults, except for one key difference. Most children still have their wellspring of Hope and Faith fully accessible. The world brings challenges for people of all ages, yet many children, even those experiencing trauma, are still shining a hopeful light through their beings, out into this world, for the best possible reality of life. Soul Evolution was a manifestation of my current life, synthesizing previous lifetimes worth of experience and knowledge into a gift for others to encourage them along their spiritual, Soul-actualizing journeys. A gift for the inner children they still carry, the ‘Hope’ warriors and warrioress’s for a more Compassionate world. For those that are parents, and wish to communicate the information they have been accessing in Soul Evolution I give you some of the simple tools I use with my own daughter, and tools that were used with me as a child.

1.) Talk about the Divine. You can encourage a child to seek their own set of beliefs in this world by explaining that the world has several ways of expressing reverence and faith. List off different names for God/dess that you are comfortable using, and if the list is short, let the child know that names to the one Source abound, but most importantly, there is a Divine essence to life that you believe in. Children have Truth detectors. Their energy fields extend with bright, pure, optimism, and when we as adults speak with pure intentions, the child will ‘feel’ it. A parent does not need a doctorate in comparative religious studies to explore spiritual dialogue with a child. They simpley must offer their own hopes, fears, and experiences of faith. If your child has a particular curiosity in one direction, seek answers with them. Discuss your emotional responses as well as your mental and spiritual attitude to the different stories, myths, traditions, and practices that are explored. There is never an age limit on these discussions. Children of all ages benefit from the exploratory, vulnerable, and seeking curiosity that their parents can provide. If the children are teenagers or adults, strive forward with courage.

My parents would say to my brothers and I, “It doesn’t matter what name you give your belief in something greater, we simply hope that you find a way to believe.” My parents provided several different ways to explore and experience faith. As a child I was spoken to about Christ, Buddha, the Greek Pantheon, the Medicine Wheel, and Egyptian gods/goddess. If there was a book my parents could find about this, they brought it home. I had a cartoon version, picture Bible, Kahil Gibrans ‘The Prophet’, the Medicine Wheel earth astrology, Joan Grants books on her reincarnated lives as some of my favourites.

2.) If people are conscious that they are the guides and mentors of very ‘awake’ children, provide opportunities for the children to explore their natural gifts. Is there a modality the children have expressed an interest in such as meditation, yoga, prayer, vision quest, coming of age ceremony, energy work through reiki, or energy healing sound therapy, or color therapy? Does the child speak about things other people can’t see such as Angels or Fairies? Or do they reference past lives? As a parent, it is a lifelong goal to have our children confide in us. Even if a child’s perceptions are different from our own, there is a large degree of grace in making them feel safe enough to express their reality. If they comment in a manner that you do not understand fully, tell them you appreciate their sharing with you. Ask them if they can tell you more about it. For example, when I had a clairvoyant experience as a child, my mother always encouraged me to speak about it.

I was able to talk about what I ‘saw’ in a safe environment from both my parents. My parents sought out books of people who had extrasensory awareness or access to the Akashi Records like I did, and encouraged a dialogue. I felt affinity with Edgar Cayce when they shared his books and teachings with me.

3.)Be involved. If your child is curious about meditation, take a meditation class, even one on line or from a book together. If your child is curious about energy work, ask them to tell you daily what colour they are drawn to expressing, wearing, feeling, or sharing with the world at large. Ask them if there is a colour that they associate with people they are interacting with, and if these colours shift. Consider finding a book to share with them that talks about Auras, Chakras, and the healing power of gemstones. If they speak to fairies, find ways to spend time outside together, perhaps as volunteers at a community garden, or if close to nature, together on walks where the natural world is explored with questions about what certain plants, bodies of water, or land features make them think about, feel, or perceive. Spiritually aware children choose parents who offer them gifts for building strength, and often, have untapped gifts themselves. If we are willing as parents to challenge ourselves to grow in new ways, our children are given the tools for courage about growth, expansion, and open-mindedness. Read a book out loud to them. Even if not every word is understood as a child, their ‘spirit is listening’. Also, the best way to learn something is to teach another, if a child hears a chapter of a book like Soul Evolution and the parent is explaining it to them along the way, there is an amazing opportunity for communication, and exploration together. Let the child be a teacher for the parent, and allow that the roles of teacher student are not reliant entirely on age. Wisdom is present in the oldest and the youngest of us all, and in between in so many capacities.

My mother read my the series of books by Lynn Andrews when I was just in elementary school. The series of books was very inspiring to my development as a young women. She also read out passages from whatever book she was reading that inspired here, I heard teachings by Louise Hay, Hyemeyohsts Storm, Robert Bly and several diverse others. As a family we often spent vacation time camping int he backcountry, ares in nature, where I was more open to receiving messages, and feeling the energy reality of the universe. My parents signed me up for courses that were available close to our small town and introduced me to other light workers. I had psychic reading and astrological charts done from when I was 10 years old and upwards. I attended medicine wheels, and was fortunate to be present in sweat ceremonies. I took an energy work workshop when I was twelve that offered tools for boundaries and shielding I still utilize daily.

4.Be honest. It’s okay to have explored different levels of faith, spiritual receptivity, and to still be seeking. It’s okay to have changed our minds, stumbled, fallen, prayed for help, and in our darkest hours, grieved for the Divine we wish we were connecting to, and then, miraculously to find our faith, in renewed force all over again. Telling children about our true experiences gives them the most valuable tool of all. It offers the reassurance that being human is not always easy. Sometimes our incarnations are fraught with severely challenging realities. Sometimes they are blissful, and filled with love. Offer children the opportunity to witness the ways in which we as adults navigate the challenges of life, faith and Spirit, and we empower them to seek a pathway that resonates and empowers themselves. Above all else, when speaking with honesty, speaking of the Love and support we are willing to give them as they navigate their own unique journey, is a incredibly powerful gift we can each offer. My parents have four very different children. We each found our pathway to Spirit in our own unique way.

I hear my parents say often, how proud they are, that each of us keeps seeking, learning, growing, and sharing our unique gifts with the world. I hope to have the grace of offering my daughter the same tools of Faith and Love as her journey develops. I am so proud of her light being one I have the privilege to mentor and learn from on this life path.

May we live to be a part of a world filled with the children whose embrace of Divine Love, changes the shape and future of the world for greater Compassion.

with light,


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