Some of the hardest relationships to let go of, either in friendship or as romantic partnerships, are those in which we are connecting with a soul from a past life, from which one of us died a significant amount of time ahead of the other. In many ways, one of the soul then spent several years mourning the loss of the companionship, and as light often calls to light, another lifetime has come into being in which we are attracted to one another. In some cases this can be a healthy reunion, built around mutual respect, affection and supreme love.
In other cases however, some of the emotional debris from the previous life can muddy and complicate the present incarnations relationship in an unhealthy, yet seemingly inextricable way.
An example of this might be of two friends of a similar age, yet one of which requires allot of ‘mothering’ from the other. Though neither are a mother in this life, one constantly is the recipient of the late night requests for problem solving, and seems to continuously require a fountain of nurturing. With meditation and prayer, one of the friends has a vivid memory of being a parent in a previous lifetime. In this scenario as in all others of such a reunion, it takes two people determined to be actively aware of themselves and their energy bodies, to help heal the wounds from the past, and move forward into a brighter future together. If only one soul wants to grow into a new bond in this present life, the relationship cannot continue.
Identifying these kinds of relationships can be accomplished by praying before sleep for a message, image, or dream to recognize the previous lifetime. If you are an individual who does not often remember dreams, it can be accomplished by seeking out an energy worker, angel card read or psychic you feel safe and comfortable with and asking them to ‘read’ the energy surrounding the relationship. A few strong indicators that a connection has unresolved karmic debris from other lifetimes influencing the present day interactions are:
1. You feel exhausted after casual interactions with a person
2. A relationship ‘feels’ far more intensely real to you than the other person seems to be feeling in return. Your desire for a deeper soul level connection is rejected repeatedly by this person, and they seem not to understand you.
3.You have never met a person before, yet the first time you lay eyes on them you experience a very intense emotional response (love, fear, anger, yearning, surprise, a full spectrum of all and more).
A positive prayer to release past life trauma and heal karmic debris is:
“I call on my higher self, angelic helpers, God/dess and spiritual guides and guardians to please help to surround me in a spiral of light. I ask that all past trauma in relationship with “insert name” be healed for the mutual and individual benefit of us both. I pray that on a soul level we are able to forgive and be forgiven by one another, so that our divine life purpose in this present life can be celebrated and met. Thank you angels for helping to clear my energy in this way, I receive your blessings of health, on all levels with open arms and heart. OM (or Amen)”
During this prayer in vision a spiral of light surrounding your body from the tips of your toes to the sky. It can be a combination of vibrant colors, or gleaming white light. As the spiral circulates, allow the ‘debris’ to be sucked into it and carried up into the sky where it can be transformed by the angelic realm. Notice any areas in the body that experience momentary lightness, or a relief of pain and be gentle with them. Take an epsom salt bath and indulge in self nurturing. Just as taking off a bandage can reveal tender skin, so to can healing karmic wounds leave the Self feeling newly vulnerable.
If this prayer creates a positive change in ones own self esteem, it is important to be aware that we all heal in different ways and at different stages. If the person you wish to heal with begins to drift away from you, sometimes the last stage of healing is that you let one another go. If the souls have truly healed the past life trauma, then they each have the opportunity to begin a new learning experience together, based on mutual love and respect, or to attract new learning and evolutionary experiences with other light beings. Letting go can be sad, it can release grief from both or many lifetimes together, yet I promise you, that the greatest of loves never die. They are brilliant colors on the energetic plane that still connect the souls that feel them. True love is limitless, and supports the individual soul path of each of us. If the love was from the purest part of the soul, then it continues to connect us, past time, through new lifetimes, and across the boundaries of the physical world.
With light and respect for your journey,
*This blogpost is featured in the bonus material of ‘Soul Evolution’ by Kamia Shepherd
*There are many relationships we are gifted with repeatedly that feed, sustain and encourage both parties towards a more enlightened and joy filled state. This post has focused mainly on the more challenging, less heathy and nourishing kind.
Another post will follow shortly celebrating and identifying ‘soul-mates’ and ‘twin-souls’, as well as ‘soul-friends’.
For an in depth exploration or facilitation of the lines of energy that connect you with past life lessons and present day experiences, please visit the Angel Card Readings ™ page.