Recently I have had several people comment that I am very calm, which often surprises me. My internal landscape has volcanic eruptions of emotions, etheric pendulums of cosmic unfolding, and a mental dialogue at the speed of a hummingbirds wing. Yet I accept these comments, as a reflection of a personal dedication to balance. Through the authenticity of acknowledging what I need in each moment to find a balanced self, balance can resonate like calmness.
No matter how old we are in physical body, we have aspects of ourselves that will forever be as pure and innocent as a young child. In the capacity of acknowledging that this aspect of self exists, we are offered the choice to honor the words, action and movement that can be practiced to bring about personal authenticity, calm and empowerment. Our words, beliefs and faith in the outside world often mirror the words that we use with ourselves.
I have the good fortune to work with a few hundred children, sharing in the gifts of Yoga. Children are receptive on so many levels. Their ‘intuition’ and heightened sensitivities, their sixth sense, is finely tuned to discerning the nonverbal cues adults send around them each and every day. If we seek to empower them to feel safe, confident and supported, one of the ways to do so, is to attune our inner voice with our outwards voices and actions. Before I teach and share yoga with the children, the future generations who will be caretakers of our planet, I empower myself to seek personal balance. In my personal practice I feed myself honesty. The words, the feelings, the movements and breathing that my being is calling out for, in its search for balance. On days where I am sleepy, vulnerable or discouraged, I empower myself to be honest on an internal level with these feelings. If we are feeding ourselves with gentle, loving kindness such as ‘I know you are doing the best that you are able to at this time. Thank you, I am proud of you.’ Instead of a negative or hurtful thought pattern, other people we encounter, particularly children, will hear gentleness and loving kindness in the words that we use with them. Authentic internal voice may sometimes say ‘I expected better from you today,’ But it can also say, ‘I forgive you and know that you can do better. I love and respect you in the ways that you are growing, changing and learning every day. In this inner dialogue, we begin to see changes in our outward lives.
Many parents have told me they wished they could feel a greater sense of calm when with their children. I offer them this gentle encouragement. ‘Instead of seeking to appear calm, give oneself permission to acknowledge what the self is truly seeking to feel Balanced, the calm follows honoring ones authentic self.’
If we are willing to be forgiving and kind internally, the world around us shifts and reflects this seeking for personal balance. Peoples actions, choices and impact then gather the momentum for us to recognize ways that we can be encouraging, forgiving and supportive of others. Children especially will feel a devotion to balance and kindness radiate off of us.
One of the prayers I use out loud or internally when seeking to acknowledge my authentic voice and self is:
“Dear God/dess, Creator and Light source of this magnificent earth, please help me to receive the gifts of self knowledge that allow for accurate identification of the thoughts, words, movement and color I need at this time to reconnect with a Balanced sense of Self. Please send the light resonance of the Archangel Micheal and Shiva to cut through all lower vibrations of self doubt or negativity I have been feeding myself. Please send the compassion, beauty and grace of Quan Yin and the Archangel Jophiel to assist me in seeing the beauty I have to share on an authentic level with all those I influence and encounter. Thank you beautiful earth for cradling my footsteps, as I stand in stillness or walk in new directions that honor my Soul Path. Thank you, Amen, OM and Aho.”
What are the words we can each feed ourselves in this moment to afford an opportunity for balance or self healing? Placing our hands over our heart centers we can take a series of deep breathes and ask our intuitive selves, ‘What do I need at this time?’ Whatever the answer, we are then given the choice to listen and honor the intuitive, innocent self that answers.
May we choose Compassion and Grace.
With light and respect for the ways we are each seeking balance at this time,
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